Navigating the modern dating world can be an adventure, but it is a chance to meet someone new, a chance to share in things that you never knew that you loved that makes it so exciting. Social rules regarding dating differ considerably according to variables of race, religion, and gender. According to social researchers, online dating and dating apps have produced some of the most profound and widespread changes in dating. While most of the 20th-century dating occurred through relationships formed in the workplace, colleges or through friends and families; online dating and dating apps are fast becoming the most common way to meet people. 

Dating is an exciting way to socially interact with others while learning if they are a compatible match. However, dating can be stressful when meeting up for the first time because of all the mixed emotions and potentially awkward moments. First dates are important, it can be the beginning of further relationship. Asking someone to go out on a date is challenging enough, but planning your first date could be even harder. It’s only natural to worry about how you’ll come across and, whether or not your date will like you. If you want your date to relax and enjoy the date you need to take charge. Choosing the right place and activities that will occur during the date is nerve-wracking. But no matter how shy or socially awkward you feel, you can overcome your nerves and self-consciousness to forge a great connection.

 Focus your attention on what your date is saying and doing and what’s going on around you rather than on your internal thoughts. Research suggests that early communication plays an important role in the formation of a relationship. Project warm, friendly confidence by making eye contact and smiling. It will also allow your date to relax. Knowing what to do and what not to do on a date will help you do well on your first date. You need to go into the date with confidence and a positive mental attitude. Ask questions about your date to get the conversation started.  According to Mrs. Gordienko, a Journalism teacher at Pennridge High School, “finding a shared activity, community event or going to a movie is a good, safe choice,” as it takes a lot of pressure off the conversation and it gives you something to talk about in a safe environment. When you are truly curious about someone else’s thoughts, feelings, and opinions it shows that you have a genuine interest in the person. Make an effort to listen to your date. Make having fun the focus of your date. Gordienko states that ”with social media, people are too rushed and they don’t really get to know each other.” Those things that allow you to get to know someone are not available in a profile. Many high school students may feel peer pressure in finding a relationship. A senior at Pennridge High School, Rebecca Wolf, states, “It’s so easy to get your heart broken at such a young age from many circumstances whether it be false love, trust issues, or cheating. Teenagers are impulsive, and they should only date somebody if they’re genuinely interested in them and like who they are as a person; they should never settle for less than they deserve because it could save them so much heartache in the end.” 

 Knowing where your strengths lie allows you to project a more positive impression when you are dating. The more positive that you are with your date the more you will get out of it. Past dating experiences can be used to improve the dating experience. Figuring out what you value, what interests you, what you are hoping to find are all really important when dating. Online dating and dating apps are a gateway to dating, but we all have to get to know each other in real life and that’s what is important. Effective dating needs to take place in person. You may not fall in love, but you may make an amazing friend, or even just have a nice experience.